2005

DECEMBER 29, 2005 - 6:00 PM

Friends,

I am off this week and we've done shopping, house cleaning, a movie and Chuck E. Cheese twice. Andy has joined friends in San Francisco for New Year's and the girls have had a great vacation enjoying activities with friends.

This afternoon when I left the hospital, Kathie was resting quietly. I continue to massage her muscles and joints while talking to her. Her eye lashes are longer now and she continues to look at me with her green eyes. I don't know what she sees or hears but I try to make her as comfortable as possible.

I was very down earlier this week, after three days of waking up in the middle of the night, I was frustrated and asking God for an end to this race. This week, I bought Kath five new night gowns, if you had to do this, you would never complain about shopping for a spouse again. I have become very sensitive to my friend who has ALS, the struggle of cancer patients, friend's heart surgeries, older couples who face care facilities and the families who love all these patients.

Psalm 86: 1-4 Hear, O Lord, and answer me, for I am poor and needy. Guard my life, for I am devoted to you. You are my God; save your servant who trusts in you. Have mercy on me, O Lord, for I call to you all day long. Bring joy to your servant, for to you, O Lord, I lift up my soul.

Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 26, 2005 - 11:00 AM

Friends,

Saturday - Katie created a handprint of Kathie, framed it and made one for each of us. We visited Kathie this afternoon, it was very touching to see Andy, Madison and Hannah kiss Kathie and say “Merry Christmas” as we left for church. Christmas Eve service helped us set our hearts and minds toward “Choosing Joy” in spite of our pain. We realize that many people in church this night were also struggling.

More than just surviving Christmas, we celebrated by remembering Christ’s birth, Kathie’s traditions and exchanging gifts. At church, a children’s sermon could be titled, “Whatever happened to that guy?” A reminder that we need to celebrate Christ each day. We met the rest of our family at my parent’s house and continued to enjoy the day. That night, Andy hugged me and told me that I had done a good job with Christmas. We discussed “Choosing Joy,” as two people who missed Kathie deeply.

Your prayers for our strength were answered today,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison, Hannah, Katie and Audrey

DECEMBER 23, 2005 - 11:00 AM

Friends,
Thank you for supporting us in prayer, meals, carpools, gifts, hugs, notes, emails and love.

This Christmas Season, may you continue to be drawn to Christ, not just drawn to our story.

Merry Christmas,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison, Hannah, Katie & Audrey

DECEMBER 20, 2005 - 10:00 AM

Friends:

Thank you for continuing to stand with us in prayer especially during this dark, quiet time in the life of our family. I have not wanted to write or talk or share over the last few days because I just have enough energy to get through each day.

I look forward to visiting Kathie each day and continue to massage her muscles, file her toenails, sit quietly, look into her eyes and talk to her. Recently, I have thanked God for Kathie, celebrating the ways she has blessed all of us and how much I love her.

Our family is very tired from months of struggle but continue to “get out of bed each day.” The girls are happy for Christmas Break and embody the Joy of Christmas. Andy (our personal chef) made“roasted tomato bisque” the other night. Katie continues to work and take care of Audrey. My parents are a constant source of support and our friends have been taking the girls to holiday events. With your continued prayers, we will celebrate Christmas this year.

We are still “Choosing Joy” in spite of our pain. I am more aware of the world’s suffering and your personal losses this year than ever before. I pray the Joy of Christ for you this year.

Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 16, 2005 - 8:00 PM

"What strength do I have that I should still hope? What prospects that I should be patient? Do I have the strength of stone? Is my flesh bronze? Do I have any power to help myself now that success has been driven from me?" Job’s lament of Chapter 6 verses 11-13 was my lament on Thursday. By God’s grace we have better friends than Job and we have felt your prayers.

Previous to Wednesday’s meeting, I had also asked that a Neurologist exam Kathie, that has not taken place yet and I will let you know what his prognosis is. I am tired from these months and will not go into details about the Neuro-surgeon’s prognosis, understand that reliving the details hurt me.

I kept the girls out of school Thursday, although they could have gone, I kept them close to me, for me. In the afternoon they left to decorate cookies with friends and I went to visit Kath. As I’ve done before, I pulled the curtains around her bed, raised the bed as high as it would go, and leaned against it so I’m almost looking up at her. I was very close to her face, reading, praying and talking to her. A very hard visit.

Today, the girls went to school, I went to work and at 2 pm, I went to see Kathie. I sat on the bed talking to her; I also reached behind her and rubbed her back, stroked her head, read a Psalm and prayed for her.

I drink a lot of water and eat a meal each day for strength, tonight my parents and I went to dinner. We had a good time talking, I thank God these people raised me and continue to bless my family.

We continue to persevere in the name of the Lord,

Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison, Hannah

DECEMBER 14, 2005 - 6:30 PM

Loved ones,

I am so sorry. Kathie's right brain will not recover, the damage was too great. She will live but not regain responsiveness. We have surrendered her to God but hold onto the love she gave us.

We grieve our loss,
Dave, Andy, Madison, Hannah, Katie, Audrey

DECEMBER 13, 2005 - 10:00 PM

Tuesday was emotionally one of the lowest points I’ve experienced since our accident. In preparation for our meeting, I have been intensely reading and praying. Tonight, I’m writing about the peace I’ve found.

1 John 4:16, 18: God is love. There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear ... The one who fears is not made perfect in love. Today, I have lived in fear for 99 days.

Reading in My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers, started me thinking, do I really love God? Enough to surrender Kathie to him? If what we call love doesn’t take us beyond ourselves, it is not really love. I recognized my love for Kathie as “beyond myself” but when he wrote, If we have the idea that love is characterized as cautious, wise sensible, shrewd and never taken to extremes, we have missed the true meaning. This may describe affection. I realized that I have “affection” for God not a love that takes me “beyond myself."

I believe in the almighty creator of the universe and for almost 100 days I have physically and spiritually held on tightly to Kathie thinking I could love her better than the creator of genuine love. I have spent time in prayer realigning my beliefs. Right now, I do not have fear; I have faith that God is caring for Kathie as he has for my entire family.

Tomorrow, we will persevere as God’s love directs us.

We are all surrendered to God,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 12, 2005 - 11:00 AM

We celebrated Madison’s healing and Andy’s progress on Friday but I couldn’t write everything we experienced until today.

My office celebrated Christmas with our annual luncheon. I welcomed Andy and Madison’s company since Kathie usually would attend with me. This year a cross ornament was crocheted by friends celebrating Kathie and the way she would make theme gifts for families, we thank you.

That afternoon with Andy at his appointment, the girls with a friend, I decided to give Kathie a back massage. I called her neuro-surgeon to check in with him only to have him tell me he “wanted to meet with the family.” I was punched in the stomach as the deep fear of those words hit me. I talked with my dad and left messages for my brothers, I remember to pray for their strength as my family is hit hard also.

A friend has shared this with me as she continues to pray: Psalm 69: 1-3 Save me, O God; for the waters are come in unto my soul. I sink in deep mire, where there is no standing: I am come into deep waters, where the floods overflow me. I am weary of my crying: my throat is dried: mine eyes fail while I wait for my God.

As I continued to the hospital, Andy called to talk with me about his prognosis, he was working through his disappointment and I could barely offer encouragement. I worked with the nurses to roll Kathie over on the body cushion and massaged her neck, back and legs for 45 minutes. The nurse and I rolled her back over, made her comfortable and I sat with her. I left to pick up Madison, came home to offer encouragement to Andy, lay down and started rereading (third time in 3 weeks) “God is in Control” by Charles Stanley.

Saturday:
After a restless night, we attended the Christmas Party at the hospital. I didn’t want to go but we did want to say thank you to the staff for Kathie’s care. Our friend played piano and shared her energy in a difficult setting. This year we “feel the hurt of Christmas carols” as Maddie and I left the room. That afternoon was quiet with me reading “God is in Control” and resting. At 4:00 pm we needed to go somewhere and the movies sounded great, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe was our choice. A little scary for Hannah (8) as she says “the beginning is very scary but it has a good ending.” During the movie, I found tears I wouldn’t have normally shed except for our deep pain of “always winter but never Christmas” and a respect for the sacrifice of Aslan.

Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”

We have our appointment on Wednesday at 5:00 pm; members of our families will be there but not the girls. I know that many of you have learned to pray as never before, we are all growing into God’s plan.

God’s Peace to you,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 11, 2005 - 5:00 PM

Andy had his appointment with the nerve doctor on Friday afternoon. He was put through some painful tests on his lower leg showing that he does have some nerve damage in his right leg. Physical Therapy has helped relieve the “burning” sensation in his foot but he still feels like his leg is going to sleep if he stands too long.

Of more concern is the herniated disk in his back. Andy has been limited to lifting 10 lbs., the next 6 months to a year while his back heals. This order will keep him out of a kitchen; he is trained as a chef, and in search of a new occupational direction. He has enrolled in school for the winter semester and applied for jobs that interest him and don’t require lifting. Pray for Andy’s direction in the coming months.

Thank you for your continued prayers,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 10, 2005 - 9:30 AM

Maddie is walking without crutches, new bone growth and a healing was seen on the x-rays! She could stand and take a shower for the first time in 3 months, so the patio chair is out of the shower. On the way home from the doctor's visit we stopped at a store and she reached for her crutches, laughed and gave a little dance in the parking lot.

I am very proud of her. I remember around 3 am of 9/6/05, her tears as she realized she wasn't starting 7th grade that day. The 3 week Spika cast (chest to knees) as she and I worked the bedpan in the early morning hours. Second surgery to take the cast off and position a screw in her pelvis (she was the second child to have this done at Children's Hospital). That night we had lightning and thunder at 1 am, I was up calling the nurses’ station to make sure she was alright. 6 more weeks in a wheelchair and during that time, with the support of her friends, she started school. Then these final weeks on crutches doing the “Maddie Shuffle" (the way she would pivot and move on her left leg). In 3 months we have another appointment for x-rays and then scheduling her surgery to remove the screw in her pelvis.

We recognize God’s healing and thank you for your prayers,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 8, 2005 - 1:30 PM

Friends,

Not much happening with Kathie today and with restless sleep last night, I'm feeling down. At 11:30 today, I took Kathie outside and we found some sunshine to sit in but she was pretty tired and slept most of the time so I didn't get to look into her pretty green eyes very much. After an hour, I left the hospital discouraged and praying to God, “just what am I doing, what are we doing?” When I feel this way I usually ask, “what's next in your plan?”

When I returned to my office there was an email from an inspiring lady whose daughter is recovering from a similar car accident, an email from my friend who will be out of town and the Guestbook entries from Kathie’s high school classmates. These messages remind me that so many of you continue to stand in prayer for Kathie’s and our family daily. Your prayer support encourages me to refocus and continue the tasks before me.

Tomorrow at 9 am, I take Maddie for x-rays and an orthopedic exam; she has been doing a great job following doctor’s orders over the last 3 months.

Thank you for blessing us with your prayers,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 6, 2005 - 3:00 AM

Yesterday afternoon I was having trouble concentrating and finally left work at 4 pm to go visit Kathie. Dinner was provided by one of our supportive neighbors, my parents and Andy were helping the girls with homework so I went directly to the hospital. On a portable DVD player, I played the last scene of Moonstruck, one of Kathie’s favorite movies, “You’ve got a love bite on your neck.” The rest of the time I sit on the bed, look into her eyes and talk to her. Sometimes I pray for strength for us, healing for her, direction for me. I left at 7:30 so I could be with Andy and the girls before bedtime. They don’t seem to care that I’m not great company rather that I listen to the events of their day with an encouraging ear, I enjoy them.

This morning I woke up praying that Kathie is comfortable and feels safe, and then I did some reading. I also remembered a quote from Jerry Sittser, “Never has my soul been more dead; yet never has my soul been more alive, my soul has been stretched.”

I pray you are drawn to Christ through our story and not just drawn to our story.
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 5, 2005 - 3:00 PM

Sunday marked 90 days since our accident. After church Andy, Madison, Hannah and I took Kathie outside in the sunshine and visited for about an hour. She is showing some movement by turning her head to the left. After that, we went home and decorated the Christmas Tree and the inside of the house. I took an hour nap then we met my parents for dinner, they took the girls home and I went back to see Kathie. I am feeling worn down.

We pray for others, who are missing their loved ones,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

DECEMBER 3, 2005 - 8:00 AM

Friday:
Today my brother called and asked how I was doing? Without thinking, I told him I didn’t have a reason to be sad or tense so I had chosen to be upbeat about the day. I had decided to be happy about my 4:30 am devotional and prayer time, about listening to Madison’s plans, seeing Hannah run, talking with Andy and watching Kathie blinking her eyes this last week. I had a sense of peace today.

I was able to spend two hours with Kathie tonight where I filed her toenails, massaged her feet and legs, no, I’m not looking for a new career. The waves of pain still happen but seem to have diminished and the nurses have been giving her increased doses of Tylenol. When I left, she was sleeping peacefully.

December 2nd reading from Oswald Chambers: “What shines forth and reveals God in your life is not your relative consistency to an idea of what a believer should be but your genuine living relationship with Jesus Christ and your unrestrained devotion to Him whether you’re well or sick.”

May our family continue to be useful to God,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
NOVEMBER 29, 2005 - 4:00 PM

Thursday:
After some finagling with the nurses, I was able to take Kathie outside today and sit in the sunshine. They weren't sure if her bed rest order had been fulfilled. I had checked with the charge nurse on Wed. and had it ok'd. One of the nurses thought it was chilly and insisted that Kathie wear her pink fuzzy socks, I like the way they care for her.

During our visit today, an hour and a half, she opened both her eyes and leaned forward, drawing up her arms and fingers five times. I think this is some kind of pain or stimulus response, I asked the nurses to look at the response and into pain medication. I know her face and I feel very helpless when I don't know how to comfort her, when the "pain" subsides and she seems to relax with relief and put her head back on the pillow. Because Kathie can't speak and tell us what she is feeling, I would like you to pray specifically for her comfort and that we could find the cause of this response.

Thank you for continuing to pray with us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

NOVEMBER 29, 2005 - 4:00 PM

Tuesday:
Kathie and I were not able to go outside today; she is on "bed rest." Saturday, when I was giving her a back massage I discovered a knot and bruising near her tailbone. A nurse, charge nurse and doctor all looked over the condition right away and as I was leaving Kathie was going to x-ray. With all the vital organ and brain injury, a fracture to her sacrum had been noted but like Andy, the injury was non-operative and hard to monitor. The staff and I have discussed making Kathie more comfortable by limiting range of motion exercises and lifting her out of bed. We are also watching stitches around her feeding tube.

Please continue to pray for overall healing for Kath.
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

NOVEMBER 27, 2005 - 9:00 PM

Friends,
I was asked today, “How do you know when Kathie is sleeping.” Kathie’s left eye will open fully and her right eye is about half open. What we are looking and praying for is her “purposeful response.” Her doctors are looking for her to respond to commands like, “squeeze my hand, blink twice or move your finger.” I can actually look at her, realize when she is tired and watch her drift off to sleep.

Saturday:
At 9 am, I gave Kathie a back, arm and legs massage to relax her muscles. It is not easy task to roll her onto her chest using the body cushion but with two staff members we succeeded. Kathie’s doctor reported Saturday afternoon that when she entered the room, Kathie woke up (from sleep) and looked around the room. I have seen these actions before and we continue to pray for a purposeful response.

I surprised the girls by putting up our Christmas lights in the afternoon and they cheered as we drove up. I didn’t feel like doing this because Kathie and I traditionally stand across the street and look at the house when were done. In spite of our feelings, we will choose Joy this holiday season.

Sunday:
Andy, Madison, Hannah and I visited for an hour then Andy took the girls home while I stayed to give Kathie a massage. I worked with her for about 45 minutes and during that time her oxygen saturation and heart rate stayed consistent. I thought at one point she might have slept. I also watched her heart rate rise at the end of the massage, like she was done and ready to roll back over. She fell asleep, looking comfortable as I left.

“Not all circumstances are good but God is good in all circumstances,”
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

NOVEMBER 26, 2005 - 9:00 AM

Friends,

Thank you for your patience over the last few days, I haven't wanted to sit down and write much but your notes and emails have been appreciated.

Wednesday:
I took the morning off of work and spent it with Kathie talking about the afternoon meeting, massaging her neck and shoulders and watching her sleep. Andy brought the girls at 12:00 and we visited Kathie together. At 1:00 pm, Kathie, Adult members of our families and “advocates,” I have been blessed with a small group of advocates who have quietly prayed for and advised me since September 5th, met with her doctor and about ten members of the Unit Staff. I have been impressed with the way the staff has taken care of Kathie, the way they talk and touch her daily. The preliminary doctor's report regarding the recent CT scan shows no change from the end of September. Her neurosurgeon will be sent the scan and I've asked that a neurologist examine Kathie.

After the meeting, I asked our pastor to lead a Thanksgiving and Prayer Service in the hospital chapel for our children and anyone who wished to stay. The service included Prayers of Pain and Praise, Prayers for Kathie and Prayers of Comfort and Courage. We spoke the words of the first stanza to In Christ Alone and the benediction was Ephesians 3:20-21. Doug did an excellent job and I was moved by the service, reading the printed order of worship many times. Hannah and Madison were moved to tears, expressing the sadness we all felt, that Kathie is greatly missed.

Thursday,
Andy, Madison, Hannah and Wiki (our dog) went to visit Kathie in the morning and took her outside in the sun. Our cockapoo is not equipped as a visitation pet like those at Children's Hospital but I think she did a good job making her presence known to Kathie. It was very hard for me to be without her today and even harder to leave and go to Thanksgiving dinner. We all gathered in Ramona at my brother’s house and the Thanksgiving prayer, given by my Dad, expressed our thanksgiving to God for our blessings and just how much the entire family missed Kathie around the table. Thank you very much for your special prayers for our family on Thanksgiving. That evening, I went back to see Kath, she seemed agitated, I continue to pray that she feels the closeness of God minute by minute.

Friday:
I visited Kathie for two hours and assisted during her range of motion therapy. The therapist did a very good job and Kathie was falling asleep as I left. That evening my brothers and parents gathered for dinner and to say good-bye to the “Elko Joneses” as they return home. The girls had a wonderful time with their cousins and want to visit as soon as possible.

The last few days have been a very painful time but in that pain, I have had a wonderful time with my brothers. They have held me in a closeness that would be hard for me to speak much less describe in words, tears filled my eyes as I write about them. They daily exhibit Christ's love to me, I am blessed by them.

We are thankful!
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

NOVEMBER 22, 2005 - 11:00 AM

Happy Birthday Kathie!

We celebrate this day and thank God for the way Kathie touches each of our lives.

When she was a single mother, supporting two children, she decided to enroll Katie and Andy in a private church school near her office. She was discouraged from this because she was seen as wanting too much for her children, limited funds and questions about a “church school.” She told me the story of checking her budget and discovering she would be an amount short each month, she enrolled the children anyway. That week she was given a raise that covered the amount she was short. This began Kathie Christian walk because she realized this event didn't happen by chance. I met Kathie because she started attending the church that sponsored the school.

A friend once asked Kathie, “What are your major accomplishments?” She responded with, “my children.” Katie and Audrey, Andy, Madison and Hannah, God has blessed you and I see Mom's qualities in each of you. Today, she is proud of her “major accomplishments.”

Psalm 139:14 I praise you (God) because Kathie is fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

We've been blessed by Kath,
David
NOVEMBER 21, 2005 - 3:00 PM
Friends,
Saturday, Hannah’s soccer team played 3 games between 1:00 and 5:00 pm to win the Division 5 playoffs. All season long the girls have been improving as a team and they peaked to win the championships!

Madison is counting down the days until her appointment on Dec. 9th and enjoying this week off for Thanksgiving break.

Andy’s MRI was yesterday and the scan will be ready for his next doctor’s visit.

We begin a difficult week with Kathie’s Birthday on Tuesday and we will miss her very much at Thanksgiving. Not much to report and it looks like she will have a CT scan tomorrow.

Tonight, I will give her a back rub while friends take the girls out, I am struggling to maintain hope.

We thank you for your prayers,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

NOVEMBER 19, 2005 - 7:00 AM
Friends,
Last night the girls went to a movie and sleep over and I was able to spend Friday evening with Kathie. I bought her an early birthday present (Nov. 22nd) and we tried it out. It is called a Body Cushion and it allows me to massage her back while her face, chest and hips are supported. She has not lain prone in the last 70+ days and so with the help of the staff we turned her over and I massaged her neck, back arms and legs. Kathie is a big fan of neck massages and my prayer is to add a different kind of comfort to her care for 30 minutes. By the time I was done her neck and back muscles were loosened and I believe she felt better.
We continue to run the good race,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
NOVEMBER 17, 2005 - 9:00 PM
Andy has another MRI appointment on Sunday; the doctor wants to look at his upper back. He has been managing his pain and physical therapy sessions very well. He is also able to drive now, thank you to John for working on his car.

I saw Kathie at lunch today, we stayed inside and I massaged her neck. I missed her very much this afternoon so my parents stayed with the girls while I went back to see her. This time I talked with her and worked out all her joints for a couple hours.

We thank you for praying with us,
Dave, Andy, Madison and Hannah
NOVEMBER 15, 2005 - 4:00 PM
Friends,

Sunday we didn't make it to church because I just didn't have the energy. I ate very little from Saturday afternoon until Monday lunch, still reeling from the neurosurgeon's letter, and I didn't sleep well either but I do thank you for the prayers at 1:30 am.

Katie did quite the job on Audrey's birthday party and I let her know that her Mom would be proud of her for the detailed planning and her hard work to create a great children's pirate birthday party, including a buried treasure hunt.

By Sunday afternoon, I was very agitated and emotionally needed to see Kath. Andy, Madison, Hannah and I arrived around 4:30, the prayers over Kathie from my children helped to heal my heart. On the way home, I told them that "I" need to go visit, Maddie looked at me and said, "We know... that's why we came."

Monday, I went to pick up Madison for her plastic surgeon appointment, she showed me her school pictures that had been touched up but her scars are still very visible. My 12 year old girl talked it through, handled the disappointment and then was ready to move onto her appointment, I do learn from my children. Her prognosis is "excellent" and she will see the doctor again in 6 months, I will post her Fall and Spring pictures for comparison. Side note: the doctor requested that Hannah come to this visit just because he enjoys seeing her so much.

Because of our schedule, Monday is a difficult day to try to visit Kathie and I finally realized that I couldn't go. Disappointed, I also realized that on some days my prayers are worth more than my presence.

Tuesday was a beautiful day in Coronado, Kathie and I sat outside in the shade and talked for an hour. I tend to move my head into her line of sight when I'm talking with her and I feel we make contact that way. We don't know what Kath sees or hears or if I'm just "wanting" contact to happen. I want her to know she is loved, prayed for and missed by all of us. I said good-bye knowing we had a good time and contact has happened.

Thank you again for all your daily prayers, dinners, notes and emails of support,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
NOVEMBER 12, 2005 - 7:00 PM
Friends,

I spent 2 hours with Kathie last night and this morning I saw her for an hour and a half, she looks good I enjoyed our visits.

I still do the everyday tasks of picking up dry cleaning, Hannah from a sleepover and working on a wood project then we went to Hannah’s soccer tournament. She and the team did extremely well, had a lot of fun and the team won their bracket in preparation for the playoffs next Saturday.

After the excitement of the games, I picked up our mail and focused on a letter from Kathie’s neurosurgeon. I have a lot of respect for him and two days after my request of October 26th he went to see Kath. He writes: The outlook for a good recovery is extremely guarded. I would request a follow-up CT scan of the brain in early December and see her again at that time. I wish I could be more encouraging but it is best for the family to deal with this on a realistic basis. This is the same prognosis from the end of September but they are very painful words to read.

I also received an email from a close friend quoting Ephesians 3:20-21: Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations forever and ever! Amen. These words combat my feelings of dread and keep me balanced.

I discussed the letter and email with Andy and the girls then we went to visit Kathie. After being sick for the last few days, digesting our discussion, Maddie had a very hard time seeing Kathie and cried. We held each other as we prayed talked to Kath and left early.

Our lives are balanced with one foot in faith and one foot in reality. You and your family, me and my family all live difficult lives, we couldn’t go through this without our Faith. We will go to church tomorrow, then go visit Kathie and continue with the everyday tasks of life.

We thank you for crying out with us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
NOVEMBER 11, 2005 - 10:00 PM
On the way to visit Kathie this morning, I thought of Katie and Andy's Grandpa Ray who passed away last summer, he was a veteran of Guadalcanal. Our business was closed to honor the veterans and I was able to visit Kathie twice today.

She looked good and I spent the first hour stretching her arms and legs while talking to her, she never looks excited to do stretching. Her muscles are atrophying from lack of use but she still has good flexibility. Her right arm draws up to her chest and the left arm extends when she coughs. Her right leg looks natural but her left leg is in extension and the left foot is extended in a "drop foot" position. She sometimes "frowns" and moves her head to the right but recently I've notices some moves to the left. The swelling is reducing on the right side of her head.

This evening the girls are at a birthday party so Kathie and I listened to music while I stroked her arms and hands.

Thank you for waiting with us.
NOVEMBER 7, 2005 - 6:00 AM
I gave Kathie a neck and upper back massage this morning and she seemed to enjoy it. I will be taking her two new neck pillows to make her more comfortable while we wait for the brain swelling to reduce.

Andy's nerve / foot pain seems to be improving as he goes to physical therapy and does his exercises every two hours. He is doing a great job working with his doctors and focusing on his therapy.

Maddie has a meeting with her plastic surgeon on Monday to check the progress of her facial cuts and lacerations. She is moving very well on her crutches.

Hannah is looking forward to a soccer tournament this Saturday.

We celebrate our granddaughter’s birthday this Sunday; Audrey will be 7 years old officially on the 25th.

NOVEMBER 7, 2005 - 6:00 AM
Friends,
Thank you for your encouraging words through the guestbook. Many of you have talked about going to the website for information about Kathie 2-3 times a day; I go to read your entries during the day. I realize that you have allowed yourselves to feel and pray deeply for us. You are appreciated beyond words.
Yesterday, Andy, Maddie, Hannah and I visited Kathie after church. We all sat in the front reception area and took turns sitting next to her. I know that our voices are encouraging to her as we watch for her progress.
From Oswald Chambers, My Utmost for His Highest, Nov. 7th reading. The circumstances of a believer's life are ordained of God. In the life of a believer there is no such thing as chance. God by His providence brings you into circumstances that you can't understand at all but the Spirit of God understands. God brings you to places, among people and into certain conditions to accomplish a definite purpose through the intercession of the Spirit in you... All your circumstances are in the hand of God and therefore you don't ever have to think they are unnatural or unique. Your part in intercessory prayer is not to agonize over how to intercede but to use the everyday circumstances and people God puts around you by His providence to bring them before His throne and to allow the Sprit in you the opportunity to intercede for them. In this way God is going to touch the whole world with His believers.
We continue in God’s hands,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
NOVEMBER 6, 2005 - 6:00 AM
Friends,
The hospital has activities for the patients so Friday we went to hear a karaoke style singer. If you know Kathie, I received looks that questioned, "Just what are you doing?" We sat in a room with other patients, listening to music with nurses singing and dancing around. Normally, I wouldn't have chosen this for my lunchtime but times aren't normal right now.
Yesterday, Maddie and Hannah were with friends so Kathie and I were outside for an hour or so. Then we went back to her room where I massaged her feet and stretched her arms until she fell asleep. I do see some different movements and when she is sitting up; her right eye is open wider.
I woke up early this morning, having plenty of sleep but thinking of Kathie and all the things I need to do in the coming weeks. The 22nd is Kathie's birthday; the 23rd is a family meeting at the hospital and then Thanksgiving.
I have also been reflecting on being thankful. Andy has taken control of his physical therapy, meetings with doctors, found his health insurance coverage and has stepped up to the tasks before him. I was grumbling about a chair in my shower then I realized that Madison uses that chair and she doesn't grumble. She handles scars, pain, crutches and schoolwork and still finds time to encourage me. Friday night as Hannah and I were leaving the hospital, she asked, “Are you ok?” I told her that sometimes leaving mom I was sad, she took my hand and said, “God is with us right now!” I am thankful for my family, what I learn from my children and how we care for each other.
Today, we thank God for our blessings,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
NOVEMBER 2, 2005 - 9:00 PM
Friends,

I recently read about a woman that was in a coma and could hear but not respond to those around her. While looking at Kathie today, I realized that I've never explained to her what her condition is. With both Andy and Madison, I talked with them and answered their questions; I've never had the chance with Kath. I imagined that if I were lying in bed, unable to move with nurses moving me around, if I could hear and reason, I would believe that I was paralyzed.

I took the next 30 minutes with Kathie explaining all her injuries and surgeries to her, I told her that she didn't have any neck or spinal injuries but she does have a severe brain injury that will take some time to understand. I also repeated the information and explained it carefully. I believe this is consistent with the entire stimulus we are giving Kathie. I think I passed along some hope to Katherine.

When I went back this evening she was resting peacefully.

We continue to pray for healing,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
NOVEMBER 1, 2005 - 4:00 PM
Friends,
I took Kathie outside today for the first time in 2 months in a reclining chair with wheels, it was beautiful weather in Coronado as we looked at the houses across the street from the Hospital. Being outside was a welcome break from the sounds of ventilators, beeping signals, fluorescent lights and air conditioning. I uncovered her feet and brought her hat (with the "I hate perky people" button) it made me smile to see her in it; she seemed to enjoy the sunshine and the warm breeze between her toes.

I can still hear her neurosurgeon say, "let's wait 6 months and see." Kathie still has a large amount of swelling on the right side of her head and I am told that the swelling in her brain stem can take a long time to dissipate. Many of you have shared articles and experiences about brain injured people, I personally believe she can hear us and is trying, so we talk with her, read, play her favorite music and tell her how proud we are of her efforts all to help stimulate her healing.

You and I recognize that we are coming up on 2 months since the accident.

Thank you for taking care of Kathie with us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 31, 2005 - 10:00 PM
Friends,
Tonight I went with the girls for trick or treat, Maddie on her crutches, Hannah at 110 mph and Audrey somewhere between. Thanks to Katie, all costumes, hair and makeup were perfect. Although fun, the night had emptiness for me and at 8 pm with Andy home I could go visit Kathie. She was sleeping and then opened her eye, I told her about the butterfly, cute witch and flapper costumes of Maddie, Hannah and Audrey, and then I told her how much I miss her. By God's strength we will start a new day and Tuesday I will have the nurses transfer Kathie into a rolling chair so I can take her outside for a stroll during my lunchtime.
Thank you for your prayers,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 30, 2005 - 9:00 PM

We went to church today and then the girls went to the Sunday School hour while Andy and I talked with a lot of people we haven't seen for two months. We are touched by your comments of support and how often you check this website daily for updates, thank you for continuing to stand with us.

After church we went to visit Kathie, Andy pointed out that this is the first time the 5 of us were together since the September 5th accident, we joined hands with Kathie and each of us prayed. Her eye did not open as she slept during our visit; she seemed very peaceful and sleeping soundly.

At 4:30 pm Hannah and I went back for a follow up visit, Kathie was in a movable reclining chair. Her left eye was open, sometimes the right would open, she has some swelling in both of her hands but her fever was down today. Hannah has continued to talk to Kathie, ask questions and give her Mom kisses. We continue to watch and pray.

Thank you for blessing us daily,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

OCTOBER 29, 2005 - 5:00 PM
OCTOBER 28, 2005 - 10:00 PM
Friends,
We just returned from visiting Kathie, this was Hannah's first visit. She is something to behold as she cried, quietly looked, then tearfully explained to Kathie how she is in the Third Grade now, played soccer this morning and went to the Halloween Carnival this afternoon. There wasn't a dry eye around the bed. She sat on Maddie's lap, continuing to talk with Kathie and tell her how proud we are of her, stoke her hand and kiss her. We all prayed with Kathie, thanking God and asking for continued care for Kathie until she comes back to us.
Thank you for blessing us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 28, 2005 - 10:00 PM
I saw Kathie for 2 hours tonight and she looks good but much to Kathie's dismay, I have a background in rehab and she is the object of my affections. I think I wore her out with all the stretching and manipulating of her joints tonight but she has also received more foot massages in the last 8 weeks than I can count. She had a CT scan yesterday and the results show that her chest, heart and abdominal areas look good but she has some fluid in the pleura between lungs and chest. Her doctor is still looking for the cause of the low grade fever. We continue to pray for God's healing hand in Kathie's recovery. We have our good and bad days but we continue to "run the race" before us.
Thank you for blessing us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 25, 2005 - 4:00 PM
Friends,

Maddie is officially transitioning from her wheelchair to crutches, she is now allowed to stand on her left leg and put her right leg on the ground when resting. The x-rays show new bone growth and everything looks good, she will go back to the doctor Dec. 9th to see if she can stand on her right leg and begin walking again.

Andy saw a spine specialist today who prescribed some new medicine and we will continue to watch how this treatment works over the next 2 weeks. He is still experiencing nerve pain in his foot.

Kathie is receiving antibiotics for her blood and lung infections and her fever is still low grade. Her doctor is concerned with getting rid of the low grade fever that Kathie has had for weeks now. Her right eye has shown some small opening over the last few days.

Thank you for blessing us, continuing to stand with us and keeping us strong,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 21, 2005 - 9:00 PM
Friends,
Hannah has gone with her Brownie Troop camping and so I took this opportunity to take Madison to visit Kathie. This is the first time since the accident that Maddie has seen Kathie. She talked to Kathie, cried, stroked her hands, kissed her, told her she is �the best Mommy� and cried some more. My Mom and Dad joined us for support, as they have done since September 5th and were very helpful.
On the way home Madison shared how at school she is asked, �when will your Mom get better? On top of dealing with a wheelchair, on top of missing her Mom she is overwhelmed. I let her know that she has every right to be overwhelmed and that I couldn't imagine going through this at age 12.
We both recognize that our friends touch our lives; some are sent at special times by God just as we need you. Maddie also said that God was in the room with the three of us, his hand resting on our backs and touching our hearts. I am in awe of my little girl.
You continue to be a blessing,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

OCTOBER 18, 2005 - 3:00 PM
I spent my lunch time with Kathie today, she was moving her head to the right, yawning (I was not insulted) and making little movements. Katie and I were saying that little movements are always appreciated. We don't know what she sees or hears but we continue to be encouraged by any movements we see. Kathie's fever continues to go up and down with her doctor and nurses continuing to treat it.
Andy's foot continues to have nerve pain and he has been referred from the orthopedic to a spine specialist. His pain keeps him up all night so he is exhausted and in pain. He was able to sleep last night though.
I went back to work this week and I'm very thankful to my co-workers who filled in for me during a very busy time. The accident actually caused both Andy and I to be out of work at the busiest time of the year because he was going to fill in as our college age warehouse workers went back to school. We have appreciated all the support from our office.

Thank you for your continued prayers.
OCTOBER 16, 2005 - 10:00 PM
Friends,
Over the last 6 weeks, we have been treated to wonderful delivered meals and appreciated using the gift cards for a dinner out. I have lost weight from stress, not from your great food, thank you for your support and kindness.

Here is the health update:
Kathie is receiving antibiotics for a urinary tract and an infection in her blood. Other than that, her temperature is down and she seems to be about the same, we continue waiting. Andy will see the doctor on Monday to review his MRI and deal with continued nerve pain in his legs and foot.
Madison is healing and due to see her orthopedic doctor on October 25th. She will be seeing Kathie for the first time soon. Hannah had a great weekend of soccer and will also be seeing Kathie soon.

I have not allowed visitors because we have tried to protect Kathie's health and privacy. When she had pneumonia, I would even eye hospital staff that coughed. In order to continue to protect her privacy but allow visitors I would like you to contact our Minister of Visitation, Margaret Walls at: margaret.walls@fpcsd.org if you would like to schedule a visit. I have shared my concerns with Margaret and she will help you visit and respect the concerns of our family. Kathie is healing and we believe Margaret will coordinate visitation that will benefit Kathie.
Thank you for your prayers and blessings,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

OCTOBER 12, 2005 - 6:00 PM
Monday - I mentally prepared for the move to Coronado Sharp Subacute Care on Tuesday morning for Kath. I have visited Kathie by walking the 170+ paces from the parking structure, through the MRI Bridge at Sharp Hospital 2-3 times a day, this time the distance seemed harder. After that I needed to go to admitting to collect Kathie's wedding rings and bracelet, a very hard day. We all have received great care from Sharp Memorial and Children's Hospitals over the last five weeks, thank you so much.

Tuesday - The move went great but dealing with the emotions of putting my wife in a care facility was agony and tearful. Mom, Dad and Kathie's mom plus Craig via telephone were a huge support. In a devotional reading by Oswald Chambers on Oct. 11, he says: "If God has given you a silence, then praise Him -- He is bringing you into the mainstream of His purposes." I live with one foot in hope and the other foot in the present and wonder what God has in store.

Wednesday - Kathie looked good this morning after a fever passed. The Occupational Therapist says that she does not have contractures and has good muscle tone. The nurses and staff have been an excellent support and she is receiving great care. She was sleeping and looked very peaceful when I left.

Your prayers continue to sustain and bless us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 10, 2005 - 7:00 AM
Friends,
I was laying awake this morning thinking about writing this note to you. I've had a few bad days lately and have trouble writing it down.

Kathie's trauma doctor says she is healing well from her internal injuries but isn't sure if she will "wake up" from her head injury. Her neuro-surgeon says we should wait six months and see. God will have the final say in her healing. She will move to a Coronado care facility this week and I will let you know about visitation.

My prayer has been for obedience to the tasks at hand and to my faith, taking care of my family while dwelling on Kathie's healing is exhausting. I am taking Andy to an MRI appointment this morning at 7:15 am. I realize that your prayer and support allows me to continue serving my family.

Thank you for blessing us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 6, 2005 - 8:00 PM
Kathie continues on "blow-by," she looked tired but continued to work hard. Andy and I swam laps today; the physical work was good for both of us. Maddie had a great day at her first day of middle school and Hannah is ready to play soccer on Saturday. Thank you for the Guestbook comments, I am encouraged each time I read them.

Thank you for blessing us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 6, 2005 - 8:00 AM
Kathie is still off the ventilator and she is on "blow-by" or a process by which moist O2 is blown by her tracheotomy and she breathes in on her own. We pray for her responsiveness daily, currently she does not respond to commands but may be tracking a little with her left eye. The nurses put her in a cardiac chair (adjustable chair) 2-3 times a day.

We took Maddie swimming yesterday and she "so enjoyed" moving her legs and the freedom of the water. She also decided to go to school today instead of Friday; she was very excited this morning to start her first day of 7th Grade. I am extremely proud of Madison; she handled two weeks in a body cast, surgery, and a wheelchair, not to mention seeing the devastation of the crash. In Children's ER she and Hannah were holding hands to comfort each other. She and Hannah are amazing tributes to Kathie's nurturing love.

Thank you for your continued blessings,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

OCTOBER 4, 2005 - 10:00 PM
Andy's new medicine gave him his first full night of sleep and he is feeling much better today.

Thank you for the prayer support this afternoon, my mom and I visited four care facilities. It is tough to picture my wife in such a facility but I keep reminding myself, "It is a place to heal." Kathie went off the ventilator at 10 am, I saw her at 11 am and then at 4 pm. She was looking strong with a good heart rate and respiration, at 8 pm tonight she was still off the vent and breathing on her own.

Thank you for all your support and blessings,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
OCTOBER 4, 2005 - 7:00 AM
Kathie went 10 - 12 hours off the ventilator on Sunday and then spent Monday on the ventilator. I figure after "running a marathon" on Sunday, she deserved a day off. She continues with a low grade fever and the respiratory therapist will try her off the vent today.

Andy is feeling nerve pain in his foot and can't sleep; his doctor prescribed some new meds. We are also looking at doing some swimming for exercise and pain relief.

Maddie is planning on returning to school on Friday, her first day of 7th Grade. We are happy for her.

Hannah is my gem and is doing well in school.

I will be looking at intermediate care facilities today for Kath, pray for my strength.

Thank you for your prayers and blessing us.
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

OCTOBER 2, 2005 - 9:00 PM

Friends,
I have been looking in on Kathie twice a day and calling each evening and early morning so it made sense for me to start giving updates. I continue to appreciate my Brother Craig’s support and expertise; he has helped pull me out of despair many times these last weeks.

It was great to see our First Presbyterian Church family today and worship with them; we have missed you very much. Praise music, Doug’s message and communion, we needed to be back at Church.

I went to see Kathie today at 1:00 and was informed that she had been off the ventilator for four hours and at this writing it will be eleven hours of breathing on her own. I also talked with one of the doctors who had operated on her the night of the accident; he called her a miracle because of all the internal trauma she sustained. Currently her right eye is closed with some fluttering (no damage to the optic nerve) and her left eye is open but not tracking. We continue to wait and watch as her brain moves toward healing.

Andy and the girls were with friends today so I spent the next three hours with my wife. We have a CD player in her room so Sara Evans, Frank Sinatra and Andrea Bocelli (an eclectic blend) played during our time together. I wiped off her face and arms with a wet cloth, telling her about Hannah’s soccer game, Andy mowing the lawn through his leg pain, Maddie’s studying to return to school next Friday and I told her how proud I am of her and just how pretty I think she is. This was the best three hours I’ve had in the last four weeks!

This week will be filled with more intermediate care decisions for Kathie and plenty of problems but tonight I have peace. Thank you for your prayers.

You are a blessing to us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

SEPTEMBER 29, 2005 - 10:00 AM

Kathie has been moved to a different unit in the ICU, still only family is allowed to visit. She has been responding some to touch, recently in her feet in particular.

SEPTEMBER 28, 2005 - 7:00 AM
Katie Thomas, Kathie's oldest daughter, is looking for a room to rent somewhere near Scripps Ranch so that she can be close to the family. Please contact Stephanie if you can help with this.

SEPTEMBER 26, 2005 - 8:00 PM

Friends,
Today at 5:15 pm is 3 weeks since our accident and last week moved painfully slow. I am struggling in a valley and wishing I could share good news with you from a mountaintop. Please realize that when no new website postings are made that is because there is no news. I watched Madison’s friend drop by last night for a quick visit. As the girl's father stood by quietly listening, Madison started sharing with him what was happening with Kathie, he knew but never asked, just listened. I would hope that our adult friends would also listen, smile and not ask Andy, Madison or Hannah about Kathie, they will tell you as they can. This Sunday we are planning on going to our 8 am Church Service to worship, thank God for our healing and to pray for Kathie’s health. We look forward to seeing you. We continue to appreciate your prayers, cards, guestbook notes, dinners and gifts. The overwhelming support from Kathie’s office is a testament to not only her work ethic but the personal relationships built on a daily basis.
You all continue to bless us and we thank you,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah
PS: Maddie and Hannah told me this was a very nice letter. We are in this together.

SEPTEMBER 25, 2005 - 4:00 PM

Kathie had surgery today to have the shunt put in her brain to drain fluid. The surgery went well; she will have a CT scan soon to make sure that it is in the correct location. Although her recovery is slow, the hope is that it will speed up when the fluid is removed.

SEPTEMBER 22, 2005 - 3:00 PM

Madison is doing better at home; she is able to get around on her own. Andy is sore but doing okay otherwise. Kathie is moving along in her recovery. The doctors are moving her around some (they sat her in a chair earlier), and they are trying to get her to breathe on her own which she is starting to do more. She opens her eyes from time to time, usually her left eye more than her right. Because of a small amount of fluid on her brain, the doctors plan to give her an AV shunt, which is a tube leading from her brain to her abdomen, so the fluid can drain and be reabsorbed.

SEPTEMBER 21, 2005 - 4:00 AM

Friends,
Thank you for all the Get Well cards and comments to the Guestbook, we have appreciated your thoughts and encouragement.
* Madison came home on Tuesday and loves being able to take a shower and use the bathroom (little things we take for granted). She has had a great attitude and is a wonderful patient. When my not-so-little girl sits in her wheelchair and encourages me, I do see the hand of God.
* Kathie shows small signs of improvement as Tuesday she began breathing, assisted by the ventilator, we continue to pray for miracles. We are still limiting visitors to immediate family and thank you for honoring this request; we know she is loved by you.
* Between 1 and 4 am I have trouble sleeping so I check in with Kathie’s night nurse, read the Guestbook, pray a lot and thank God for all of you who support us.

Thank you for continuing to be a blessing to us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison & Hannah

SEPTEMBER 19, 2005 - 1:00 PM

Kathie’s surgery went well, she is resting now. Madison is resting at the hospital and should be released sometime tomorrow. SEPTEMBER 19, 2005 - 11:00 AM Madison just got out of surgery and the doctor said it went perfect. Kathie is heading into surgery now.

SEPTEMBER 19, 2005 - 2:00 AM

Friends,
I was having a little trouble sleeping tonight so I thought I would write a quick note. Here are some updates:
* I just spoke with Kathie’s nurse and she is having a quiet night with her temperature and brain pressure staying steady. Her trauma doctor has lowered her pain medicines in order to observe her responses and we are prayerfully waiting.
* Andy had a good lunch and movie with friends, he still is in a great deal of pain but sometimes a normal activity is needed, even in his wheelchair.
* Maddie is trying to avoid looking at her schoolbooks as she prepares for her Monday surgery. She has enjoyed her school friends' visits.
* Hannah attended two soccer practices this week and is looking forward to her Sat. game. She has done a great job working her way back into school this week with Katie and Audrey taking her to school today. Thank you to the many friends who have prayed for recovery, taken care of the dog, done paperwork, made Velcro shorts for Maddie and picked up groceries. My parents and family have been a tireless support, to know them is to expect such support and I always appreciate them.
Thank you for blessing us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

SEPTEMBER 18, 2005 - 7:00 PM

Friends,
Today, I am bursting! It has been almost two weeks and today at 5:10pm (the time of our accident); Kathie’s neurosurgeon declared that the crisis has passed in regard to the pressure on her brain. Her ICP has moved into a normal range and tomorrow the gage in her brain will be removed. Today, by the grace of God, this prayer for healing has been answered as a “yes.” We celebrate with you, thank you and acknowledge your prayers for healing. Prayer requests for tomorrow: * Maddie will have surgery at 9 am and spend the night in the hospital (no visitors please) coming home on Tuesday. * At 10:30 am Kathie will have a tracheostomy and this will allow her to have the tubes removed from her throat and breathe without the sense of a finger down her throat.
Thank you for your continued blessings,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

SEPTEMBER 17, 2005 - 2:00 PM

Kathie’s condition seems to be slowly improving. She had another CT scan which showed that the swelling is slowly going down in her brain. She is scheduled to have a tracheostomy, which will put her breathing tube through a small hole in her neck instead of down her throat. This is to make her more comfortable. Andy is up and about, although he gets very tired. Madison went to see Hannah play soccer today.

SEPTEMBER 16, 2005 - 12:00 PM

Kathie has been moving around a lot today and yesterday. Although she is not tracking yet she has been opening her eyes and responding to touch. The doctors and nurses are hopeful and impressed with her progress.

SEPTEMBER 15, 2005 - 12:00 PM

Madison has been scheduled for a second surgery this Monday. It is a new procedure (she will be the second child to have this done) by a UCSD doctor trained in orthopedic trauma. This will take Maddie out of her body cast and allow her to possibly return to Marshall Middle School in a wheelchair in 2 weeks.

SEPTEMBER 14, 2005 - 3:00 PM

Kathie’s condition seems to be improving slowly. Her fever never went above 100 last night and the pressure and swelling are slowly going down, partly due to the diuretics she is on to get rid of excess fluid. The doctors may be taking off some of the sedation medication soon.

SEPTEMBER 13, 2005 - 5:00 PM

Friends,
Thank you for your continued prayers, four of us are at home and healing slowly. We know that you are there to help us even though we don’t know what we need. Last night I was very sad after visiting Kathie, it was also one week ago that our accident occurred. Craig called to check on me and with all that is Craig brought me back with his encouragement, medical knowledge and brotherly love. Updates:

* Hannah went to school for two hours on Monday and then needed to come home, we will try again this afternoon. She has a soft heart and although she was least injured bodily, she feels everyone’s pain. * Maddie is enjoying her Cast Count Down board made by my office. Each day has a treat and underneath the pocket is the number of days left in her cast. 23 to go! She has been talking with her friends on the telephone.
* Andy was able to take a shower yesterday by sitting on a chair. After that painful endeavor, it took him a couple of hours to recover. He spent yesterday on our patio and enjoying the sun with friends and family.
* Some specific concerns to uphold in prayer for Kathie. Her temperature has gone up as she is being treated for pneumonia. She has also developed two blood clots in her legs. I thank God for the doctors and nurses that are taking amazing care of her.
* Katie (our oldest) and Audrey (our granddaughter) were not in our car but have been hurt by the accident. Remember them in your prayers; Katie has been blessed with a new job that started yesterday. When Madison was released last week I hated walking into our house, it was not the home I left on Labor Day evening. A part of me wanted to run out of the house. Your prayers upheld me as I worked to uphold my family and I thank you for your support. We are now into the second week of a very long process and I know many of you want to send food, please realize that we eat what sounds good at the moment. We want to accept your gifts but sometimes I just share a banana and milk with Hannah, she also eats peanut butter and crackers. We are dealing with such intense lives that we see “food” as necessary so we can heal and have strength for daily tasks. Thank you for contacting Stephanie via the website, that process has been so helpful to us.
Thank you, thank you for your prayers and everything you have done. We know we are blessed and loved by you.
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison & Hannah

SEPTEMBER 13, 2005 - 8:00 AM

Andy and Madison are doing better at home. They still don't want visitors but they are getting a lot of rest. Kathie had a good night last night. She has had some slow pupillary response in her left eye which is a good sign.

SEPTEMBER 12, 2005 - 5:00 PM

Kathie developed some clotting in her legs which is common when a person has been immobile for a long period. The doctors placed IVC filters in the veins in her legs to filter the clots so they won't travel to other parts of her body. Her fever was due to pneumonia, which is not severe and is being treated with antibiotics. She is responding to the medication. Andy has been in pain but his pain medication has helped a lot. He and Madison have been relaxing. Please check the contacts page for information on the best ways to send cards or to offer assistance. SEPTEMBER 12, 2005 - 8:00 AM Kathie’s temperature and vital signs were stable last night after a bit of up-and-down yesterday. The nurse said he had a peaceful night. Andy and Madison are resting well and Hannah began school this morning.

SEPTEMBER 11, 2005 - 2:00 PM

Andy is feeling better today and has been walking more. Madison is feeling better also. Kathie has a slight fever today and her white blood cell count is slightly elevated. This is not out of the ordinary with injuries like hers but it is a concern. The doctors have switched her antibiotics.
SEPTEMBER 10, 2005 - 6:00 PM Andy is doing better today and is walking around some. He is itching to leave the hospital, but in good spirits. Madison is feeling better also. Kathie is stable and has been all day long.

SEPTEMBER 10, 2005 - 9:00 AM

The doctors looked at Andy's spleen on the CT scan again yesterday and discovered that it was still bleeding. They performed a non-surgical procedure called an embolism and stopped the bleeding. He is in some pain but seems to be doing better. Madison is doing okay aside from a slight stomach ache. Kathie's condition is stable and unchanged.

SEPTEMBER 9, 2005 - 6:00 PM

Andy and Madison were both able to walk around some today, with assistance. Kathie's vital signs have been consistently stable.

SEPTEMBER 9, 2005 - 1:00 PM

Dear Friends,
My days usually start around 8am at the hospital and I visit our three rooms throughout the day and now at 10pm, you continue blessing us. As I've read your guestbook comments, I am deeply touched. I know you would do anything for us but right now we are disjointed and I take heart that we will be able to rebuild with you soon. Thank you for honoring our request to suspend visits. This morning, Hannah, Maddie and I shared a quiet prayer for Kathie, through tears, prayer and encouragement we regrouped. The rest of the day was filled with quiet activities that are needed to heal the body and soul. Andy and I prayed for Kathie, he has taken a few steps using a walker this afternoon. Kathie is stable but continues to be our biggest concern. She has amazing doctors in Dr.Cleary and Dr. Kennedy. I hold onto the promise that God is in control today and by his grace, we will face tomorrow.
Thank you for blessing us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

SEPTEMBER 9, 2005 - 11:00 AM

Kathie had a restful night and this morning seems to be responding more to touch. She has been moving a little more and has even opened her eyes a few times, although she is not tracking yet. She is making small steps toward recovery. Please continue to pray for her and the entire family, including Katie, who is hurting for her mom and the rest of her family. SEPTEMBER 8, 2005 - 7:00 PM Kathie’s condition remains stable and unchanged today. Madison and Andy are getting more rest and seem to be doing better.

SEPTEMBER 8, 2005 - 12:30 PM

Andy and Madison are both doing better today. However, they are both exhausted and have been unable to get enough rest because of all the concerned visitors. The family has asked everyone to please suspend visits until further notice. This way they can rest and regain their strength.

SEPTEMBER 8, 2005 - 9:00 AM

Kathie had a quiet, restful night. All her vital signs remain stable. She still has swelling in the brain but that will be there for awhile.

SEPTEMBER 7, 2005 - 9:00 PM

Both of Dave's brothers talked to the Neurosurgeon today who gave the following evaluation: The neurosurgeon gave a two week window from when the accident happened and said that they won't see a whole lot of change until two weeks have passed. They are seeing a little more movement from Kathie, but typically in these situations the edema (swelling in the brain) gets worse in the second week. Over the next two weeks she could get better or worse. The brain just takes its time to heal. Kathie has swelling in her brainstem, but no blood in the brainstem (which is good). He stressed again that she has suffered severe brain trauma and all we can do is wait. Kathie's lungs were bruised and they both collapsed after the accident. She has tubes in her lungs and they will stay there until they feel that the lungs have stabilized. Madison and Andy will stay in the hospital tonight and possibly tomorrow. Both are still in a lot of pain and exhausted. LIMIT VISITATIONS: Please postpone or limit your visits for the next few days. Andy and Madison are exhausted, in a lot of pain and need plenty of rest. Although they enjoy having visitors it really wears them out. If you do visit, please keep your visit very short. We'll keep you posted on how they are doing and when they can see more visitors. Here is an informative website on brain injuries.

SEPTEMBER 7, 2005 - 3:50 PM

Kathie got out of surgery about 3 hours ago and the surgery went very well. They were able to remove all the packing and gauze from around the liver and close up her abdomen. There was very little bleeding. Yesterday there was a lot of bleeding which meant they had to give her blood and fluid transfusions and this, in turn, causes swelling in the brain. Because there is very little bleeding, they can now stop the blood transfusions. This will hopefully reduce the swelling in the brain. Kathie remains stable and her brain pressures are about the same. She continues to move in response to stimuli. Madison was up today and got in a wheelchair and went over to see Andy. Madison is in pain but it is better than it was and now she is just trying to get used to the casts. Andy will stay in the hospital for a few more days as he is still in a lot of pain.

SEPTEMBER 7, 2005 - 11:13 AM

Dear Friends, Thank you for the outpouring of love, concern and prayers. By God’s Grace we were granted another day with Kathie as her vital signs stayed consistent, we have a long haul of at least two weeks before the swelling in her brain reduces but remember I married a strong willed woman. Even in SICU when I was talking on the telephone and mentioned Madison’s surgery she moved her feet and her heart rate went up, from her bed she still wants to take care of us. She knows you are praying for her as we all do. We have been blessed with wonderful doctors and nurses plus my brother Craig has been a medical spokesman for our family. My brother Dr. Dan flew in from NV last night and was able to look us all over. Katie has been a good support and is doing well. Here are some bullet points:
* Hannah has little crutches and a smile, as she is concerned about taking care of her daddy. She has a soft spirit and is my joy in these tough times.
* Maddie will be learning to move and shift in her body cast today and for the next four week. This cast is better than pinning her injury since she has 3-4 more year of growing to do. She is in pain in her lower back.
* Andy’s pelvis and sacrum were fractured but will not require a cast. His lower back is in extreme pain and the doctors will try to have him move out of bed today.
* Kathie is my biggest concern, I believe your prayers have been heard and I believe God is holding her... (Hannah is rubbing my back as I write this and cry sometimes).
You are all dear to us and we thank you for blessing us,
Dave, Kathie, Andy, Madison and Hannah

SEPTEMBER 7, 2005 - 9:00 AM

Kathie had a good night's rest last night. The swelling in the brain has been stabilized and her vital signs are stable as well. She is no longer sedated and she is allowed to wake up when her body is ready. Right now she is not aware of anything - her brain is helping her to sleep. She has been moving around a bit more and her body is responding to pain/stimuli. The Neurosurgeon said that the brain trauma was pretty severe, but 'at least she is moving' which is a positive sign. As you know, her liver was lacerated. When the liver is lacerated, they can't stitch it up, they have to pack it tightly with gauze to stop be bleeding. Because of this process her abdomen has been open. Today they are removing the gauze and are going to close up her abdomen. We should have another update on Andy and Madison sometime after noon today.

SEPTEMBER 6, 2005 - 5:21 PM

Madison is out of surgery and she is in a body cast from her knees to her chest. She will be in the cast (and wheelchair) for four weeks. Kathie had a CT scan and the tests indicate that her brain is responding to stimuli. She will remain in the induced coma for at least two weeks and her condition remains very serious. She is definitely not out of the woods yet and we need to continue to pray for her recovery. Dave's brothers are both a trauma nurse and ER doctor and they are here and very involved with all the doctors treating Kathie and the Jones family. We will have a schedule of ways to help and contact information as soon as we can and as soon as the needs arise.

SEPTEMBER 6, 2005 - 1:15 PM

Madison’s pelvic fracture will be treated with a full-body cast rather than with pins. Everything else remains the same.

SEPTEMBER 6, 2005 - 10:52 AM

Kathie is stable in the ICU. The bleeding on her liver is not completely stopped so she will probably have another transfusion today, but she had a restful night after surgery. Dave and Hanna were released last night; Dave has a fracture in his arm. Madison has a fractured pelvic bone. She is in the ICU but doing okay. Andy had a concussion and may have a broken pelvic bone as well; he will have another CT scan today.

SEPTEMBER 6, 2005 - 9:08 AM

Kathie’s condition remains very serious. She suffered head trauma, a punctured lung and a lacerated liver. Her spleen has been removed. The neurosurgeon has relieved the pressure on the brain and has said it will take several days before we know how she will respond. Andy is recuperating from a concussion and was kept overnight for observation. Dave is doing well and is focused on his family. Hannah was treated for cuts and bruises and was released into the care of Bud and Janet Jones, Dave’s parents. Madison has a broken pelvis and is at Children’s Hospital. Doctors may insert a pin in her pelvis today. Please uphold this family in your prayers. We pray for God’s comfort and peace in the midst of this extremely difficult time. We are earnestly praying for God’s will, especially over Kathie’s condition. She is vital to so many and we pray that she will survive and be restored to health. In the name of Jesus our Lord and Savior we pray.

SEPTEMBER 5, 2005 - 8:16PM

Dave Jones, the girls, Kathie and Andy were in a serious auto wreck this afternoon. Their SUV was hit by a tanker truck in the area of the fire on Pomerado Road. Had to use Jaws of Life to open the car. Kathie is in serious condition with internal bleeding. Life threatening. Possible spleen concerns. In surgery now at Sharp Memorial Hospital. Dave has probable fractured arm and few other hits and bruises. He will spend the night at Sharp. The others have injuries but not to the same extent. The girls are at Children's Hospital with cuts and bruises and will probably go home tomorrow. Andy has a head injury and will spend the night at Sharp Hospital. Pray. Pray and ask others to pray for them, particularly Kathie. For the Doctors, surgeons and nurses, may they have the skills needed.