January 26, 2013

The first I've written this year.

When I communicate with families who are are going through their first holiday season dealing with their loss I share that the Season begins for me on October 31 and ends as the decorations are put away after New Years. Between that time, I focus on making sure the holiday celebrations are enjoyable for my family but there is a relief as the season ends. I am not morbid or sullen, you know that I subscribe to a motto of Choosing Joy and so I work to find the Joy in the meaning of each holiday, in worship and in the blessing our our family.We had a great holiday season and appreciated the blessings we have... but it does take work.

This month Kathie has been home for a visit and last week we went on another mall excursion. Big difference from navigating a wheelchair through the holiday crowds and our focus was more  about necessities than gifts.

Hannah just closed out the semester last Friday and Maddie returns to SFSU for Spring Semester tomorrow. Coaching Soccer and a church leadership term has concluded, I've enjoyed the calm, which will allow me to complete some home tasks. I'm also planning another home visit for Kathie this coming Saturday.

Blessing as our New Year begins,
Dave

Choose Joy
"Whereas happiness may be a fleeting feeling, a mood that changes with the winds of circumstance, joy is an attitude, a posture, a position we take. Joy involves believing with a tenacious confidence that God is in control of life, though the immediate evidence might suggest otherwise."

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