May 7, 2014



Early Monday morning Hannah was at our local middle school to welcome the incoming freshman cheerleaders. I remember this rite-of-passage four years ago when Hannah was the recipient of the wild make-up and hair teasing by the then seniors-to-be. I'm amazed at the last four years.

Kathie's longevity since our accident has been my thought lately. One of her trauma surgeons (she had two) thought she should have died from any three of her internal injuries on the surgical table. Her brain surgeon said he hadn't seen someone live with such brain trauma. In a discussion with trauma nurses, they warned me that Kathie living past the accident could be very difficult on me. Nurses are usually tasked with having the difficult discussion with the spouse. Two medical life-expert groups, hired by lawyers, thought she would live three or five years at the longest. My goal as I took in all this information was not Kathie's longevity but what should be my response to God placing us in such circumstances. Just sharing, some of the thoughts as I look back on the years.

My Utmost from May 2:
The Patience To Wait for the Vision.  Though it tarries, wait for it… Habakkuk 2:3

“Patience is not the same as indifference; patience conveys the idea of someone who is tremendously strong and able to withstand all assaults. Having the vision of God is the source of patience because it gives us God’s true and proper inspiration. Moses endured, not because of his devotion to his principles of what was right, nor because of his sense of duty to God, but because he had a vision of God. “. . . he endured as seeing Him who is invisible” (Hebrews 11:27)...

“Though it tarries, wait for it …” The proof that we have the vision is that we are reaching out for more than we have already grasped... Our reach must exceed our grasp. Paul said, “Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on . . .” (Philippians 3:12).”

Last month I purchased a refurbished hospital bed and a new mattress for our home. This bed will be a transition point from the wheelchair when Kathie is at home. Plus the positioning of the bed will help me avoid a lower back strain. The bed fits well into the bedroom that I have designed for Kathie’s use, one more step in Kathie’s comfort.

We continue to reach,
Dave & Kathie


Comments

  1. Carol LangMay 8, 2014 at 9:14 AM

    Wow, you've lived with this situation for so long. You are to be commended for everything you've done. Soon it'll be Mother's Day and you'll have so many great memories of past years with Kathie.

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  2. Sister of TBI GuyMay 19, 2014 at 9:50 PM

    Hi Dave & Kathie,
    Hang in there friends!
    This is what God has put in our lives and therefore it is "of God" to do, to embrace and lean heartily on Him at times of routine and sameness. For all the butterfly kisses and sweet smiles that you have been given from Kathie since the accident, let us give a Shout of Praise to God!!
    Rich blessings on your days together!
    Laura

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