November 6, 2015




“Send a greeting card to My Loving Husband for their Birthday.”

Each year, since our accident I’ve received this email since I now use her home / family email address as my personal address. Kathie set up birthday reminders with a company so she would be reminded of special occasions. Now, I am reminded of each of the birthdays she entered. The fun part of receiving this email is two-fold, one, I must have done something right to be listed as “My Loving Husband” and two, I actually look forward to receiving such a greeting… from Kathie. I also get a reminder of our wedding anniversary but this birthday reminder, set up over 11 years ago, is truly a cherished Birthday gift. I leave it in my In-box throughout the year then delete it when the next message arrives.

Next week we are taking an outing to a north county beach and an outlet mall. Last month we visited Coronado Hospital and the staff that took care of us for 4 years, we were greeted by many smiles of that staff that continually do their work. We also visited Kathie’s roommate Maria. Maria has been disabled her entire life with added medical malpractices and the pain that comes with being bedridden for the last 10 years. I nicknamed her “my favorite brat,” to which she smiles broadly and chuckles. Kathie, Maria and I all share birthdays with weeks of each other. Ages in common, but such different lives lived.

Blessings, 
Dave & Kathie


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  1. Sue DNovember 12, 2015 at 11:18 PM

    Thank you so much for sharing...I look forward to each message you write.

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  2. Carol LangNovember 16, 2015 at 3:14 PM

    Thanks for another great update! I also look forward to them. It's hard to believe the journey has been going on so long.

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