December 29, 2020

Tough year for me emotionally. 

December 25 marked 15 Christmas' without Kathie. The holiday season for me starts Oct 31 and ends Jan 1 with her Birthday during Thanksgiving week. Usually, I'm at Kathie's bedside as a way to help myself deal with the loneliness of another special day without her.

In 2019, I drove 15,966 miles allowing me approximately 533 visits. I didn't realize the freedom and blessing I had to visit, bathe, and care for her. I had hoped the 28th would bring relaxed visiting restrictions but no change was allowed.

In the first 76 days of 2020, I visited 125 times. After March 17th, only 24 visits some in person, most through a window or dropping of lotion and gowns. Pretty dismal.

The good news is that Kathie didn't have any cold or flu symptoms for all of 2020. She continues to be very healthy. She is receiving excellent care at her care facility. I do visit her via the KathCam 6-8 times a day. The camera has a small microphone built in so I speak to her and let her now how beautiful she is.

She will be receiving the Covid Vaccine soon, I pray to be moved up the list as a caregiver and allowed an early vaccine that will allow me in-person visits.

In the meantime, we continue to be in God's Grace as we Choose Joy in our lives.

Blessings in 2021, 

Dave & Kathie

 

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